Early this year, m read one's blog.... days ago similiar therory flew past m.... m agreed what had written N decided to share....
Here it goes...
Imagine how you feel when you first met the perfect man or woman who is charming, funny and smart and give you all the good feelings. After few weeks, or few months, suddently you realised that all faults or negative value in the man or woman you fell in love has now surfaced. This often happen because of the human nature. When we first fall in love with someone, we only focus on the good points, and are blinded to the bad points of the person. At surface value, the person seems perfect. However, when we know a person even further, the small undesirable details will start surface, and it will be harder to stay in love with the person. So, now, in this situation, m will turn off by the person, be it a frenid or someone whom m loved because the negative values of the two persons are too contrast and totally clashed! Just like crabi. m find her very irritating by the way she speaks and behave. So do m bother to change her? Absolutely NO! Thou we know each for a very short period of time.
When a couple start dating, it's a wonderful thing in the world. They will admire each other outstanding life experiences and outspoken characters e.g charming, cheerful outlook, skills and intelligence and so on... Initial stage of dating, everybody paint a very beautiful pictures about themselves and tend to hide all the negative points or blinded with the negative points. But for sure,m wasn't the one hiding all the negative values,m honest and simple gal... if m love the person, of course m will take the whole package.maccepting who and how he or she is, rather to change one's...
Relationship does not work that way. These ten over years, m had gone through different phase in life and same goes to everyone. The experiences in life will change a person's perspective in life and hence we have different expectation or ideas to be fulfilled. m will continue to love taurus as my sister and my soulmate, but it is not the lover's kind of love relationship anymore.
From m experience says that a person's experience can influence the change of certain value of a person, but a person's basic instinct can never be changed. A bad tempered person will carry this bad temper forever. A person who is a big chatter box cannot ask him/her to keep quiet for few minutes. So, sometimes it is not that people change their character, it is already in them but it was yet to surface.When we are in love, we are blinded from all the faults or negative values. When you open your eyes and see the true color, you will feel irritated or upset and that's influence the LOVE feeling to the person. and when there are more arguments, fighting, upset, cry and tears, your love to the person will subside eventually. well some of this therory applies to " good pals" too
Finding a perfect match? There is no perfect person in this world. However, the person we are looking for should be the person who is having the strength which compliments own weakness and wise versa this is the perfect match! Of course in queer world, one must be on TOP and another at the BOTTOM. One has to be dominant than the partner, or one can cook, another one likes to clean up & wash dishes, or one has brain, another one always forgot and left her brain in the office, and also common interest and habits like both like to eat fish and homecook food and TV maniac ….and when asked what adult wants? one answer sex toys and another answer SEX SEX SEX! hahahhahaha
Few days a go SR asked m : why do m love her. m replied... bcoz she is silly N m njoy to bully her... Of course this isnt the answer...
There is no if, no but, neither why… just like 1+1=2… no explanation, no logical theory, no calculation…. just purely the ways both feels and the chemistry flows very well...
